The ability and capacity to take perspective is so important for you because it leads you to be able to navigate life in a more calm and rational manner. Learning the skills to step back and invoke the pre-frontal cortex of your Brain is a skill that can be easily learned. When you become rational and much much less emotional you prove to yourself that you are not stupid, illogical, or irrational. Then you are much better able to communicate your needs.
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